Last year I wrote about what I wished Halloween could be for our family. I dreamed of a day when we could enjoy the spirit of Halloween in community without the abundance of candy and general tone of consumption. I wanted it to be filled with joy, excitement and good wholesome fun. This year, with the help of a friend, we were able to realize my dream!
Our gathering went like this:
4:00 – Gathered and greeted each other
4:15 – Made Halloween lanterns using recycled jars, tissue paper, wire and watered down white glue
4:45 – Ran Races, including a monster eyeball race (carry an olive on a spoon), three legged race, and potato sack race.
5:05 – Played Games, like tossing a beanbag through a pumpkin’s mouth, pin the tail on the cat and a spider ring toss.
5:30 – Pot Luck Dinner
6:00 – Bobbing for apples
6:15 – Pumpkin Pinata that was filled with raisins, fruit leather and non-edible treats like pencils, erasers, stickers and stick on moustaches!
6:30 – Spooky forest walk where we followed the trail to view the candlelit pumpkins each family carved and brought with them and the children carried their Halloween lanterns!
It was a busy evening for me, being the one to direct the action. But it’s what I love to do. Sometimes I struggle with the balance between being the leader and being the mom. But Rob was there with me, so he could be there for the children when I was otherwise occupied.
The races were a riot! There were no prizes, and that was fine. The best part was that the adults wanted to be part of the fun too! One of my friends requested an adult sack race – what fun!
The pinata was a great success! The boys and I made the pinata the week before Halloween by using paper mache over a balloon. We were sure to make it strong since we knew there would be lots of children wanting a turn! We painted it orange and added a traditional pumpkin face. The children had a great time taking turns to whack it. Seems we made it strong enough, as it was the fourth round through all the children when it finally burst! I will never forget the look in the child’s eyes who burst that pinata. She was so excited and pleased with herself! The children were each given a small bag to collect one of each of the things that had fallen. They were so wonderful about it. There was no pushing, shoving, crying, or any other negative feelings. I saw children sharing and helping each other choose what items to take home. It’s amazing what candy frenzied sugar greed does to an atmosphere!
The children really loved bobbing for apples. This is a holiday tradition that isn’t done anymore for ‘safety’ reasons. I’m not too sure what the safety concerns are…drowning? swapping germs? eating healthy food? This was reported to be my children’s favourite part.
The forest walk at the end of the evening was particularly magical for me. With the ‘work’ done, I was able to be more present to enjoy the experience. The children’s lanterns flickered down the path as we stopped to admire each others pumpkin carvings. The children enjoyed seeing the pumpkins so much that we decided to walk to trail twice! This was a beautiful shift for me from what is usually a rush to knock on a door to trick-or-treat, completely ignoring the pumpkin sitting to the side of the stoop. We were able to enjoy each others artistry!
Despite the rain and cold damp evening weather, after the last family had left, we decided we needed to do it again next year! Perhaps next year will be bigger and better! Getting more people involved will help to diversify the event, and take a bit of the performance pressure off of me. I am ever grateful to my friend for helping me put this together and hosting this party. Not only that, but her willingness to contribute and participate full force in my vision was amazing. I hold deep gratitude for all who attended as well. Those families willing to step into the edges, making bold choices to diverge from mainstream culture. Halloween night this year was everything I had hoped for and more! I feel truly blessed…