The Sound of Crying


Create Vision and Respond to Change, Cultivate Diversity, From Pattern to Details, Inner Permaculture, Integrate, Parenting, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback, Use and Value Gifts from Nature

Our culture has a very low tolerance for crying.  I know this because I feel it in my gut every time one of my children begins.  I think that our mammalian instinct to run to the aid of our child has been misplaced.  Instead of a genuine care for the well being of our child, […]

September 16, 2015

Respecting Play


Catch and Store Energy, Cultivate Diversity, From Pattern to Details, Obtain a Yield, Parenting, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback

I have struggled with the idea of playing with my children.  I have never considered myself as being too ‘good at it.’  I’m not sure how that’s even possible, but I often feel like I have ‘better things to do.’  It stings just to write those words.  I watch my husband return home from work […]

September 14, 2015

“Vacationing”


Choose Small and Slow Solutions, From Pattern to Details, Maximize the Edges, Parenting, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback

The truth about vacations with children is that they are hard work.  We just returned from a trip to the city with our three children, aged 5, 3, and 1.  We had an amazing time.  We visited family, an aquarium, a train museum, took a ride on transit, and visited a science centre.  All together […]

August 27, 2015

Empathetic, But…


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I have written before about how my family values extreme empathy.  We try to meet each other first by empathizing, whether it’s adults or children.  We try to validate feelings and then work to find solutions.  What is becoming clear to me is that even though we have this goal, it isn’t always achieved.  There […]

August 7, 2015

Dirt Cookies: Sharing the Heaviness of Life with Children


Choose Small and Slow Solutions, Earth Care, Fair Share, Integrate, Obtain a Yield, Parenting, People Care, Permaculture for Children, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback

How is it possible that we have people so impoverished that they have to eat dirt cookies in order to trick their stomachs into thinking they’re full?  They have no food.  My husband brought up that he had seen this video last week as we sat around the dinner table.  The children were curious, asking […]

August 5, 2015

Child’s Play


Cultivate Diversity, Life Choices, Maximize the Edges, Observe and Interact, Parenting, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Permaculture for Children, Permaculture Principles

We went to the park this morning to meet the children’s grandmother and great-grandmother.  It was a beautiful summer morning made better by being together with four generations of people we love!  The playground was bustling with children running feverishly from activity to activity.  My children participated wholeheartedly in the slides, monkey bars, and teeter […]

July 28, 2015

The Day After the Day After


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A predictable schedule works for our home.  We have a predictable rhythm to our days.  But summer seems to throw a kink in this wheel, making it wobble and veer to one side.  There are more things to do in the summer, and as it seems, so many reasons to cast aside the schedule we’ve […]

July 15, 2015

Defining Character


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There have been several occasions when people have made comments to me about how the personalities of my children are related to the order in which they were born into our family.  I resisted this idea, thinking that the stereotypes and reductionism of this approach are not helpful.  Not only that but I have a […]

July 14, 2015

To the well meaning man at the library…


Choose Small and Slow Solutions, Cultivate Diversity, Don't Segregate, Inner Permaculture, Integrate, Life Choices, Maximize the Edges, Observe and Interact, Obtain a Yield, Parenting, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback

Dear Sir, Thank you for taking the time to stop me to address your concern for young children using computers.  You took the time to engage with our family even though your sentiment wasn’t clear when you were lurking around the children’s computers glancing at my children then around the library while I was trying […]

July 9, 2015