How to Hold It Together When My Child Can’t

Best Of, Create Vision and Respond to Change, From Pattern to Details, Inner Permaculture, Observe and Interact, Parenting, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback

When our child has a tantrum or meltdown it can trigger us parents. In this post I explore the ways to keep our own emotions in check so that we can be fully present when our child needs us the most.

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Change is a Constant, Loving it Isn’t

Choose Small and Slow Solutions, Create Vision and Respond to Change, Inner Permaculture, Make No Waste, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback

It seems like life should be good all the time.  That there should be no sad days, or days where I just don’t feel motivated to do much of anything.  But they exist – we just don’t talk about them.  The days we feel we are in our darkest places are the days where our […]

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Get Low


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Fear has a way of shackling our souls – tying us down with invisible tethers.  Finding a way to rise up out of the darkness must happen in small increments.  There are ways to move into it – taking tiny steps toward the light.  Or just tiny steps, walking anyway – moving slowly and gingerly, […]

November 15, 2016

Be Brave


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There are days where it feels like I’m not getting things right.  Days when I wonder what it is exactly that I’m offering this world.  There have been a lot of these since we moved.  I wonder how to share my gifts as I’m trapped under a mountain of work.  I think about how I […]

October 19, 2016

Change Contortions


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“To put it concisely, we suffer when we resist the noble and irrefutable truth of impermanence and death.  First, we expect that what is always changing should be graspable and predictable.  Second, we proceed as if we were separate from everything else, as if we were a fixed identity, when our true situation is egoless.  […]

August 9, 2016

Parenting Community


Create Vision and Respond to Change, Inner Permaculture, Integrate, Don't Segregate, Observe and Interact, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback

I have been thinking about what skills I might need in order to live in community.  I have thought about what would help to make me feel safe and comfortable.  What would allow me to feel fully present and myself?  Thinking about these questions made me realize that the times when I’m most comfortable are […]

June 15, 2016

Choosing Joy Over Fear


Choose Small and Slow Solutions, Consumerism, Create Vision and Respond to Change, Inner Permaculture, Maximize the Edges, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback, Use and Value Gifts from Nature

“The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science. He to whom the emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand wrapped in awe, is as good as dead —his eyes are closed.” -Albert Einstein There is a difference […]

June 6, 2016

Inner Buoyancy


Consumerism, Create Vision and Respond to Change, From Pattern to Details, Inner Permaculture, Maximize the Edges, Obtain a Yield, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback, Use and Value Gifts from Nature

I have found myself indulging many of my deepest fears lately.  As we make the conscious choice to step out of our conventional life and into the murkiness of something completely uncertain.  Selling our home without a new one to inhabit has been pushing my edges with intensity.  Most days I feel convicted.  But lately, […]

June 3, 2016

Grocery Store Meltdown


Catch and Store Energy, Choose Small and Slow Solutions, From Pattern to Details, Inner Permaculture, Make No Waste, Obtain a Yield, Parenting, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback

Today is birthday week at our house.  My daughter, now 2, was born on April 6th.  Today is my eldest son’s birthday, he is now 6 and tomorrow, April 9th my second son turns 4.  Needless to say, birthday week is a crazy one around here.  I try to make each child’s birthday special for […]

April 8, 2016

Red Lights


Choose Small and Slow Solutions, Create Vision and Respond to Change, Cultivate Diversity, Inner Permaculture, Life Choices, Make No Waste, Maximize the Edges, Obtain a Yield, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback, Use and Value Gifts from Nature

Last night as I was coming home from a primordial movement class I was stopped by a red light.  I sat there daydreaming through a song that had come on the radio, reflecting on the nourishing experience of the evening.  Then I clued into how long I had been waiting there for the light to […]

April 6, 2016

Setting Limits with Children Effectively


Choose Small and Slow Solutions, Create Vision and Respond to Change, Cultivate Diversity, Make No Waste, Maximize the Edges, Observe and Interact, Obtain a Yield, Parenting, People Care, Permaculture Ethics, Permaculture Principles, Self-Regulate and Accept Feedback

When I read about respectful parenting or mindful parenting I was always confused about setting limits.  There are very few examples in the literature, which makes it hard to figure it out.  Once we did away with punishments, I found myself at a loss for what to do.  When I was no longer relying on […]

March 31, 2016